Voice, Visibility and Vulnerability
As artists, creative souls, and human beings, we all face the demons of doubt. We may think what we have to offer “isn’t enough, or “someone else has already said it before and better”, or “no one will care or listen”. Sometimes we just need encouragement for those trembling times of doubt when we question whether the small candle of our voice is enough. It’s more than enough! We were each created as a divine spark from the infinite flame and each of us has an important and essential contribution to share.
Learned defenses of self-deprecation may keep us from seeing our own beauty and gifts and realizing how much our voice matters. Being visible also brings vulnerability. Being willing to share the shy parts of our souls that feel sensitive to reveal is a precious gift beyond measure. As more of us shine the light of love on ourselves and share our light and love with others, the more we can collectively heal and hold the tender wounded parts in all of us. As we do so, we experience the beauty of our belonging to each other and the Great Mystery.
May the words below offer encouragement and a reminder (to you and to me!) of how important our voices are.
How easy it is to say something was nothing,
to dismiss our own voice
because we can't see our own gifts,
or because self-deprecation
is such a practiced habit
it's become natural to us.
It's amazing how we can hear
the wisdom in others' words
and yet dismiss it in our own.
We wonder "who am I to take up space?”
We think someone else
probably has something more profound,
articulate or wise to share.
We worry our own words might be too personal,
too joyful or too sorrowful.
Sometimes our biggest pain
is our own self denial.
It's so strong, it can seem almost invincible.
Yet every time someone shares
their truth or vulnerability openly
we all feel less alone.
The barriers that convince us to stay on the sidelines,
the barriers that make us think our voice doesn't count,
come down just a little bit more.
Speaking or silence can both be sacred options.
Staying silent can be a choice
to honour the quiet space inside,
or a tender acknowledgement of “not ready, not yet”,
a simple desire to just take in what others have to say.
or leaving room for others’ whose voices have usually been silenced.
There’s nothing wrong with staying quiet.
The "crime" we commit against ourselves Is
taking as truth the lie
that we don't also belong.
that we don’t matter or count.
It's vulnerable to be visible.
It doesn't always feel good.
Crossing boundaries can stir up old fears
that tell us it’s safer or more virtuous to stay hidden.
Sometimes being visible is exactly
the step our soul is asking us to take
to heal the wound that says we don't matter,
to claim our place in the community of life,
to claim our voice and make a difference,
even when we don't even realize ourselves
just how much we are making a difference.